How often do you find yourself thinking things about life? Positive or negative? That is judgement. It's not always a bad thing, we all do it. According to the Merriam Webster dictionary judgement is defined as, "The process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing."
The term judgement has become taboo. Judgement is normal and necessary for daily life; making the best judgement is crucial though. Judging carelessly or maliciously can have a negative impact. Using your best judgement in all situations can reduce negatives in your life. Of course there is the flip side; being judged and no one likes to be judged.
The article Letting go of judgments by Karyn Hall, PhD has some possible ways to let go of judgments, such as:
Mindfulness
You must be aware of your judgments to let go of them. Be aware of the thoughts that you have with the knowledge that your thoughts are just thoughts and not necessarily true. Notice your judgments, label them as judgements and let them pass.
Restate the Judgment in Terms of Consequences
When you notice yourself judging, look at what the true meaning is. Remember to include the emotion that goes along with the consequences.
Restate the Judgment in Terms of Goals or Appreciation of Others
You can also restate the judgment into goals for yourself or appreciation of others. Turn a negative into a positive.
Look for What is Being Left Out
Comparisons are usually done in a superficial way by looking at your weaknesses in terms of someone else’s strengths, not the whole picture, and without complete information.
Use Validation
Judgments are often a form of invalidating others and/or yourself. One way of letting go of judgments is to change them into validating statements.
For more information please check out the following link: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/emotionally-sensitive/2012/07/letting-go-of-judgments/
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